Why I Hate Social Media (Sometimes)

8.06.2016

I'm not going to lie, I'm a religious user of social networks like Snapchat and Instagram. Whenever I'm bored, I find myself scrolling through my Instagram feed or looking through people's Snapchat stories. I don't disagree with the main idea of social media - it's nice to share aspects of our lives with others and vice versa. But there's also a negative aspect to social media; negative emotions that are sometimes linked with it.

It's easy to grow jealous when your friend hits a thousand Instagram followers before you, when nobody comments on your selfie but thirty separate people comment every variation of "cute" on your friend's post. So many people overshare and post constantly, sometimes making you feel like you're boring and have nothing to say. People create a perfect, airbrushed version of their lives through social media, making themselves seem blissfully happy. When we're constantly scrolling through filtered photos of the highlights of people's eventful lives, it's easy to think our lives are subpar or static.

Self-worth can't be determined by the number of likes or heart eyes you receive on Instagram. A friendship isn't reflected by the length of a snapchat streak. You can be pretty without your followers insisting that you are. Just because nobody has messaged you in the past five minutes doesn't mean people don't like you. Without constant notifications on your phone, you're just as lovable. As a child, you didn't need constant virtual conversations to be happy - why should you now? It's not real loneliness, it's a manufactured sense of loneliness that society unwittingly created.

There's a wonderful life you live, and it doesn't need to be constantly documented and shared with others. Truth is: people have nothing to prove to you, and most importantly, you have nothing to prove to anyone.

Do you use social media? How do you feel about it?

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  1. What an awesome post. To be honest, I can feel myself getting sucked back into it... But the past times that I have been involved in the tangled web of likes and retweets and views and comments... I've tried to alter my view on it. I've tried to stay true to who I am, blog from my heart, tweet what I want when I feel like it (and not just to please others/make them think of me a certain way). But I honestly might bow out peacefully again, for a bit, just to keep the little green demon of jealousy and all its negative feelings on a manageable leash. Like you said, social media can be so useful, such a godsend for long distance relationships of every kind.... But the looming darkness of it that makes us feel like we aren't enough are so unnecessary sometimes.

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    1. I absolutely love the way you put that!! I guess it is hard to stay true to yourself when you’re constantly influenced by the way other people are living their lives. Thank you for your comment and good luck :))

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  2. Okay can I go share this post everywhere? haha, I really love this post and the message you sent. It's really timely, and it's encouraging for me too. Instagram is a great website, but it also can be really addicting AHGHH ;) "It's not real loneliness, it's a manufactured sense of loneliness that society unwittingly created." <---- THAT LINE IS SO TRUE. woahhhh. We are never alone, but social media can create that false impression. Excellent post, Arushee<3

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    1. Aww thanks so much, love!! I’m so glad you agree with me :)

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  3. I don't have Instagram, Facebook or Snapchat, though I really wish I did!! My parents just don't think its a good thing to invest my time in, and I see where they are coming from. Facebook is just a place where people can share all of their complaints and drama that is going on in their lives! Seriously, its so stupid! Though I do wish I could have it to keep up with family and friends. And, I LOVE Instagram! I so wish I had it! Most of my friends have all of the social media, and they have a lot of the same problems with jealousy over people not liking their posts...and so on...
    I do realize that I don't really need to share everything that is happening in my life on the internet, but it wish I could have it....considering that I have never had social media. I'm kind of undecided on this topic! :P
    Lovely post! I love your writing style! You always explain things so simply and beautifully!<3
    -Clara

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    1. I see where you’re coming from, there are definitely a ton of positive aspects of social media and it’s fun to try out! I hope you get a chance to explore some of those networks soon. And thank you so much, I really appreciate that <3

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  4. I definitely agree! This mentality was rampant on Instagram. Even when I managed to make myself not care about the stats, other people getting all freaked out over them would inevitably make me care again. It was a pretty negative community, in my experience, because of all the competition. I guess that's why I left, and why I like Pinterest so much - yes, you can get followers, likes, and repins, but ultimately the purpose of Pinterest isn't to share yourself with other people, it's to build a tool and reference site for //yourself//.

    Ellie | On the Other Side of Reality

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    1. There’s often a lot of negativity and competition involved with Instagram, I think it’s great that you were able to make the decision do stop using it. I agree, Pinterest is a really fun social network to use! Thanks for stopping by xx

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  5. This was very well said, and I don't have any social media besides tumblr and Pinterest. Social media is so addicting and can ruin you!

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    1. It’s great that you’re able to stay off social media, thank you for your comment :)

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  6. I know exactly where you are coming from! Social media has changed our society forever, the way people look at things is because they saw it on social media.
    Amy xx
    amyrosexoxo.blogspot.com

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    1. You put that so well; I agree that social media just gives us a very different perspective in life. xx

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  7. I use social media, but always try to be careful and stop myself from sitting down and scrolling through because mostly that is just a waste of time when I could be finding something more helpful to do around the house, or even just go and read a good book.

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    1. That’s amazing, I think the key is to use social media in moderation. Thank you for your comment! :)

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  8. I feel you. I've never been someone who's super obsessed with the number of followers I have, or likes that I get, just because I always remind myself it's just a number. But I love this line so much- "It's not real loneliness, it's a manufactured sense of loneliness that society unwittingly created." <<- YES. Oftentimes I find myself becoming a bit jealous when tons of people are hanging out, and I haven't done anything in forever. But it's also good to remember that just because a photo looks great, it probably isn't as fun as it looks.

    I also sometimes find myself hating social media just because I always feel guilty if I don't keep up with it, and it almost becomes a chore. I have multiple accounts, some for blogging and some for personal use, and it gets overwhelming. So I occasionally do hate it. XD

    That being said, I do really love Instagram typically. What's your username? I'd love to follow you:)

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    1. Aw thank you!! I get what you mean, sometimes it feels like a bit of a chore to scroll through a bunch of Instagram photos after not checking it for a while. Right now I only have a personal Instagram that only people I know IRL follow, but if I ever make a public profile I’ll let you all know! :)

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  9. This was such a delight to read. Everything you say is so true: I feel that Instagram is basically a way to prove that you have friends by posting filtered, airbrushed selfies with "artsy" captions and multiple people grinning like they're actually happy. Snapchat is "Look at my gorgeous face (with the dog filter!)"

    Tangents aside, this was a really fun post to read and I look forward to seeing more from you!

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  10. Could not agree with you more. I am thankful for your reminder! Social media is horrible when it comes to making people jealous. It's all highlights and no lows and if someone posts something sad they get bad thoughts towards them.

    I love blogging because it is the only social media in which I feel I can be 100% me. Sharing the good and the bad without getting hate instead I get support from you lovely people.

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    1. I’m glad you agree with me! And that’s exactly why I blog as well, so thankful for you & all the wonderful people on here. :)

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  11. Completely agree. I get jealous all the time of blog buddies reaching milestones while I am stuck, but then I tell myself to be happy for them. We're in this together, so I might as well support them all the way.
    When I look at some of my classmates I wonder how they get all those likes while I barely get any on anything, but what's the point of 100+ likes when you don't have any memory of the event because you were too busy posting it online?

    x Envy
    Lost in Translation

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    1. Same here, it’s always good to be supportive of other bloggers instead of just being envious! And that’s a true & interesting way of thinking about it, thank you for sharing <3

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  12. Well said! It's so important to remember that life is so much bigger than social media. I use Twitter for my blog and I have both a personal and blog page for Facebook. I finally broke the Pinterest habit, but I do use it to save recipes, and I occasionally (like once a month?) scroll through my feed out of curiosity.

    Serena
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    1. So true, there’s so much more to life than what we all share on social media. Thank you for your comment!

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  13. I'm not a big social media user, to be honest. My friends all are, but not me. I just don't like the pressure of having to look perfect on Instagram or take the perfect selfie. It doesn't add to my happiness, and so I cut it out of my life (or at least, attempt to).

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    1. There’s definitely a lot of pressure involved, I think it’s great that you’re able to stay away from it all! :)

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  14. I too am a religious user of Social media. I hate to put it that way but Instagram has actually become like one of my hobbies... It sounds so ridiculous when I put it that way but in a way it's true. Thank you for giving me a second perspective on this... might have to do a post of my own on this topic, with crediting you of course.


    Thanks for sharing and stopping by,

    All the love xx

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    1. I’m so glad you can relate, if you do a post on this topic I’d love to read it! Thank you so much <3 <3

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  15. THIS. This is totally how I feel about social media sometimes, and this post is just so important and I really love it okay? Thank you.

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    1. AWWW thank you so much love, I’m glad you agree <3

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  16. I am also a religious social media user, and your third paragraph really spoke to me. Thank you for spreading a positive message that so many need to hear.
    peridotcove.blogspot.com

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    1. You're welcome, thanks so much for reading :)

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  17. As a child, you didn't need constant virtual conversations to be happy - why should you now? Wow, that is a powerful sentence - it's so true. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this!

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    1. I'm happy you agree, thank you so much!!

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  18. YESSSSS Arushee your blog, it's face, your writing, your topics, EVERYTHING have grown so much over the past year. (I used to blog under a different name/blog) and it's such a joy to see.
    Social media is both a plus and a trial for this generation. it's important not to put too much emphasis on things that aren't real (like internet worlds)but to remember that it does mean something to many people and we need to be conscious of that.
    Awesome post girl, keep up the good work!

    Randy Abby


    WAKE ME UP Blog

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    1. AWWW thank you so much :') I'm so glad you're back to blogging, checking out your blog right now! xx

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  19. I hope hope you can stay away from that phone now 😀😀

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